We’ve all had those big injections of motivation that suddenly move us to lose weight. We get off the couch and push the desserts away. We exercise like crazy and feel like this time is going to be different.
That lasts 2 weeks.
Then you give up (pause your plans until your next injection of motivation).
Jumping On and Off the Motivation Train
I’m going to tell you what you already know – taking action to lose weight is easy when you’re motivated. It’s hard when you’re not.
And there lies the problem. We only tend to be motivated to lose weight about 5-10% of the time. It tends to coincide with New Years or summer or some kind of social event coming up in the near future.
But after you ride that motivation high, you’re stuck treading water and fighting your own mind’s rationalizations on whether this is all worth it.
You give up, or hit “pause”, until things calm down or you hop to another program you perceive as being the answer to your lifelong struggle.
Reversing the “Buy High and Sell Low” Mindset
I’m sure you’ve heard the financial advice of buy low and sell high. However, when it comes to weight loss, most people take the buy high and sell low route.
In other words, they jump into their weight loss when they’re motivated, and bow out when they aren’t feeling it anymore. And as I’m sure you’ve experienced, you likely haven’t gotten anywhere as a result.
The solution is to work through those “low” periods by staying motivated through them. When 90% of your time is spent there, you know that’s where most of your attention needs to be placed.
Finding Your “Why” and Fighting Through the Struggle
What I’ve found is that you can not only survive those periods, but you can thrive in them if you work on two very important things:
- Getting clear on your why for losing weight.
- Persisting through the inevitable struggles.
Most people have a very generic “why” for losing weight. It’s usually something along the lines of wanting to be healthy, or wanting to avoid disease, or just wanting a good body.
That’s great, but it’s not going to motivate you when you’re feeling down. To really stay driven through this process, which is a lifetime commitment, you need purpose and something to move towards.
With my clients we consistently address our why. We try to move from physical appearance to a more internal why. We get clear on what we want our life to look like – what being healthy looks like to you.
This is going to help you get engaged with the process so you aren’t constantly focused on the result of weight loss.
Struggle avoidance is a big issue. It’s as if we’ve been conditioned to believe change is supposed to be easy. So at the first signs of a struggle we start questioning our actions.
Transformations are born from struggles. Nobody has ever lost weight without first confronting personal issues that drive our behaviors.
The struggle is real. It’s necessary. It should be a sign you’re on the right track.
Don’t avoid it. Take it head on. Come out the other side with a breakthrough that you can apply to your life going forward.
Do that over and over again and you transform yourself from the inside out. That’s what weight loss looks like.
You buy in on yourself and then you hold on for the ride. You raise your self-awareness and address issues you either didn’t know were there, or you stop avoiding the struggles you keep bumping up against.
It’s not easy. It takes hard work and requires you to ride out strong emotions. But it is the path to your success.