One of the hardest parts of transitioning into a healthy lifestyle is trying to eat healthier when your spouse has no desire to change their ways. Here are 8 things you can do to make your transition easier.
Take Ownership of Your Behavior
As difficult as it is to try eating healthy when your partner doesn’t support you, the fact still remains that no one is force feeding you. There are always going to be people around you that want to see you fail, so if you ever want to succeed, you will have come to grips that you are in complete control of your actions.
Confront Them About Peer Pressure
Some spouses not only don’t want you to change them, but they seem to go out of their way to sabotage your own efforts. They knowingly push food onto you and try to tempt you more than usual just to test your willpower.
Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and tell your spouse that what they are doing isn’t appreciated. They might not even realize what they are doing is hurting you, and many times they think it’s just playful behavior. Speak up.
Explain Your Choices Once and Be Done
Spouses and colleagues alike have a bad habit of questioning your healthy lifestyle choices. Most of them don’t do it because they’re interested in changing their lifestyles either.
Usually, their questions have more to do with making you feel bad about your choices. When confronted with this situation, simply explain that you want to be healthier for you and the people close to you. If that’s not good enough, then it’s time to reassess the relationship.
Ask Them For Their Support
Whether or not your spouse chooses to join you with your new healthy eating habits, that’s no reason to not have their support. Ask them to be supportive of your decisions and to respect the choices you’re making. Tell them you aren’t expecting them to change too, but that you’d still like them to be accepting of the new you.
Lead By Example
As bad as we want our spouse to join us in eating healthier, the fact remains that pressuring someone into doing something almost never works. For your spouse to change their lifestyle too, they need to come to the realization of change all by themselves.
That doesn’t mean you can’t influence the situation, however. Lead by example. Let your spouse see how much happier the new you is. Let them see what eating healthy food does to your physical appearance and mental health.
Sometimes people have to see things with their own two eyes before they believe it’s possible. Be patient and they might be asking you for advice soon enough.
Streamline Your Cooking
Dinner tends to be a troubling time when your spouse’s food choices don’t align with yours. If you’re the one doing the cooking, you’re likely going to have to make two separate meals.
Of course, you could always tell your spouse to make their own food if they don’t like what you cook, but when you’ve lived your entire life together a certain way, that can make for a sticky situation.
Instead, if you’d rather have a more seamless transition, you can try to find ways to use the same ingredients while being able to make one of the meals healthier. For example, if you’re already cooking chicken for some crazy mexican dish, you can use that chicken as part of a healthier salad.
There really isn’t much extra work involved. Separate side dishes are also fairly easy to prepare. Now, if you aren’t the one doing the cooking, don’t expect your spouse to start cooking separate meals. It’s going to be time for you to do a little cooking yourself.
Create a Section for Your Food
Having to weed through all the processed food to find your healthy food can play some major mind games on you. Take a few minutes and clear a shelf or cabinet that’s to be used exclusively for you.
Make a shelf in the pantry, and make a section in the refrigerator too. This will help you own your lifestyle and separate the opposite lives that are being lived in the house.
Choose a Restaurant That Has Options
Finally, when you two decide to go out to eat, try agreeing on a restaurant that serves something you can both enjoy and that aligns with your goals.
Nearly every restaurant has their menu posted online, so there’s no reason why you can’t agree on something before hand. Don’t wait until you’re hungry to decide either. Hunger has a way of aggravating the situation.
If you’re ready to change your eating habits but your spouse isn’t, try following some of the ideas laid out in this article. I think it will make the transition a lot easier on you.