What’s the difference between the people who lose weight and keep it off forever, and the rest of us who struggle to lose just 10lbs only to have the weight return with a vengeance?
I’ll tell you what the “secret” is.
Studies have shown that most of us have lost over 100lbs in our lifetime, and maybe even over 1,000lbs. Yes, even you.
How is that possible?
Because each year you lose 5, 10, or 20lbs and then watch in horror as the scale erases all that progress. Then you’re back to square one, or worse, you end up at a higher weight than when you started.
Lose 10lbs each year for 10 years and you’ve lost a total of 100lbs. Not exactly the 100lbs you were hoping for, and as a result you’re left hurt, frustrated, angry, and completely turned off to the whole weight loss process.
I don’t blame you. It’s hard to keep trying again and again and fail over and over.
Is something wrong with you? No. Are you not as smart as you think? Of course not.
Weight loss is not an intelligence issue. It’s a behavioral one – both physical and mental.
Dieting will only take you so far. The people who succeed at losing weight and keeping it off not only understand this, but they structure their lifestyle change in a way that avoids the pitfalls of dieting.
The difference between people who watch the scale yo-yo back and forth for more than a decade, and those who completely change their body, mind, and life?
We’ve all followed a meal plan and have lost at least a little weight. But that’s not the problem.
To truly lose weight and keep it off for the rest of your life you must change your lifestyle.
And the key to changing your lifestyle is in implementing systematic habit changes.
Over the next 3 lessons I’m going to show you what I’ve learned from personally coaching over a thousand clients to their weight loss goal. Here’s what you can expect today, Wednesday, and Friday of this week.
- Lesson 1 (Today): How to find weight loss motivation that lasts a lifetime.
- Lesson 2 (Wednesday): The biggest mistakes people make on their weight loss journey and how to avoid them.
- Lesson 3 (Friday): The 1 habit that frees you from the dependency on calorie counting.
So let’s get started with Lesson 1:
The very first thing you need to do is answer the following question:
“Why do you want to lose weight?”
And like most people, you likely skipped right over answering that question. That would be your first big mistake.
Because without a clear purpose for your actions or a vision for your future, your motivation will soon disappear.
You know the routine…
- oooh, this shiny new weight loss program looks amazing. It’s the answer to my lifelong struggle. I can’t wait to try it.
- I’m going to have a killer body come (swimsuit season, wedding time, family/school reunion)!
- I feel amazing. At this rate I’ll be at my goal in xx weeks. ????
- oops – I slipped up. No biggie, I’ve earned it.
- Might as well just eat what I want the rest of the day and start over tomorrow.
- Wasn’t tomorrow like 2 weeks ago?
- Why does the scale hate me so much?
- What’s the point anyways? I’m OK with my life.
- Don’t judge me for eating cookies in bed. ????
- I need to lose weight.
In all seriousness, having your “why” continuously at the forefront of your mind is going to be the key determining factor of your motivation levels throughout your journey.
This is your purpose. It serves as the foundation for the rest of your healthy habits. But it’s not as easy to figure out as you think.
There’s a very good chance your why is physical in nature – good body, want to look good in a swimsuit, want to wear certain clothes.
That’s not going to be enough. After all, that’s likely been your why for most of your life, and eventually it’s just not that important to you anymore.
Once that happens you give up on your goals, at least temporarily, until something sparks your motivation again.
We want to keep that motivational flame burning for life. This is a lifetime journey you’re undergoing!
So stop and think right now why you want to lose weight. Having physical appearance goals are fine, but I want you to go deeper and turn inward.
Why do you want to change your body? What pain from your past or future are you trying to avoid? How would your life actually be different if you lost xx pounds? What kinds of things could you do with your body at your goal weight? Would you even care about your weight if you were the only person in this world? Who are you doing this for?
Think about it. Feel it. Make your vision a part of you.
Here are a couple of my personal whys from years past:
“I’m tired of being embarrassed to have my shirt off at the beach or pool. I want to be confident in my own skin. I want to be at peace with my body.”
“I want to live a long, quality life to watch my kids grow up and to be a role model to others. I want to continue doing the physical activities I currently enjoy well into my older years.”
What’s your why?
This is the very first habit you need to cultivate in order to succeed. It is not a physical habit. It’s a mental one.
Your thoughts drive your actions, so you need to decide right now why you want to lose weight and then use that energy to forever push you to your weight loss goal.
Here’s what you need to do right now:
Answer the following two questions with as much detail as you can.
Action Item #1: Why do you want to lose weight? (Try for one external why and one internal why)
Action Item #2: How will your life be different once you lose that weight?
Once you have your answer share it in the comments below (don’t worry, if you want to be anonymous, just put “anonymous” in the name field). At the very least, read everyone else’s why. Many times it can help you uncover hidden motivations deep within you.
Do that now!
PS: On Wednesday I’ll be giving you the next lesson. You’ll learn 3 of the most common mistakes people make when trying to lose weight. You must avoid these traps if you want to succeed. See you then!