I try to understand the motivations behind people’s actions. Why do they want to lose weight? Why did they choose lifting weights as their form of exercise? Why did they decide to eat what they’re eating?
And more times than not their motivation is to “look good”.
I understand this. I used to be driven by the very same vanity metrics.
❌I’d see someone’s body and I wanted to look like that, even though that was their body – not mine.
❌I’d do HIIT sprints because they were best for fat loss, even though I hated doing them.
❌I’d eat for “fuel and not pleasure”, even though I loved cereal and some candy at the movies.
And guess what happened over and over again?
I never stuck to that plan. Sure, I’d get results (gauged solely by weight / body fat) in the short-term, but I’d also gravitate back to my old weight and habits.
The cycle continued through my entire adult life. My weight tracking chart for the last 10 years looked like a giant mountain range – valleys and peaks repeated over and over again.
In time I started doing the things that brought me satisfaction and joy – not in some distant non-guaranteed future. But right now in this very moment.
✅I decided I looked good regardless of the social constructs that have been formed to tell me otherwise, because what I think I look like is my body image, and that perception is my choice.
✅I started doing exercise purely for the enjoyment it brought me in that moment, and that ensured I always did it – which of course brought along all kinds of positive side effects.
✅I chose to practice moderation and mindfully eat the fun foods I’d placed off limits instead of following myself around being my own worst food police.
My relationship with food, exercise, body, and mind all improved. I found peace. I accepted who I was and found worth outside of my physical appearance.
Now I take all that saved energy and try to use it to make a positive impact in other people’s lives. Now it’s your turn…