I’ve noticed a trend (trap) among people struggling to lose weight. And I too have fallen for this faulty thinking.
I always thought: “If I just change this one thing I will be able to finally lose weight and keep it off.”
- Carbs are the problem.
- Dairy is the problem.
- Sweets are the problem.
- Too much fat is the problem.
- Not exercising enough is the problem.
This is Quick-Fix Thinking
We’re always looking for the quick-fix, and blaming your weight loss struggle on any one single thing is the perfect example of this faulty mindset.
I get it.
It would be amazing if all we had to do was change one single thing and all would be well.
But as you’ve likely experienced, this isn’t the solution. The quick-fix is never the solution.
The quick-fix adds to our frustration. It shatters the small amount of trust we have left in ourselves. Its failures add to our self-doubt and makes us believe our weight loss goal is a hopeless cause.
The Real Problem is Complex
The actual weight loss struggle is caused in part by many different things – mindset, nutrition, exercise, and recovery all play a roll and are likely all lacking in some form.
There Is No Easy Way Out
If weight loss were easy we’d all have six-pack abs. This obviously isn’t the case.
A Get Fit For Life member (hi Kelly) sent me a link to a weight loss success story. In it the person framed the weight loss process perfectly. To sum it up in my own words:
The actual act of losing weight – the nutrition and exercise, are simple. But the mindset – the real driver behind losing weight and keeping it off, is psychologically complex.
This is a great insight that many people don’t think about. What goes on in our heads has the biggest impact on our success.
Our thoughts are what lead to our actions. Trying to change our actions while skipping our mindset never works. When you do that you’re relying on sheer willpower to get you through.
Eating & Exercise are Byproducts of Your Mindset
If you hate your body, why are you exercising? Are you doing it for punishment? Are you doing it because you don’t like the way you look?
Now, what if you exercise because you love your body? Do you think you’ll continue exercising knowing that it makes you feel healthier, fitter, and happier?
In both instances you are exercising, but only with a mindset that fosters love of self will you continue doing that exercise for the rest of your life. Without that good mindset you are likely to give up on your action plan.
What does that mean for you?
It means you have to stop looking for that holy grail of weight loss – that one thing that will solve all your problems.
It doesn’t exist.
The reality is you likely have a lot of things to work on, most of which start within your head. So you need to start becoming more mindful of what makes you tick – what thoughts are leading to the behaviors that take you away from your goals.
Pay attention to the words you tell yourself. Slowly work on improving those thoughts one at a time and I think you’ll be surprised at how your behaviors fall in line with your goals.