The more you try to control food – the more it ends up controlling you.
You want to lose weight so you restrict calories and cut out fun foods.
You make eating choices based on what it will do to your weight.
Your next meal either can’t come soon enough or it never sounds satisfying.
You stress about social situations that involve food or you avoid them altogether.
You think about food constantly.
Food is no longer food to you anymore – it’s just a means to an end.
In an effort to control food you are now at its mercy. So much of your waking energy is spent trying to solve an unnecessary puzzle of your own creation.
But the puzzle never gets solved because you’re trying to control something that doesn’t need to be controlled.
Food is a relationship. It’s based on mutual respect.
Once you try to control it, it fights back and tries to control you. Your eating becomes disordered.
The only way out of this trap is through perspective and trust – perspective that food is your friend and not your enemy, and trust that if you honor what your body tells you it needs it will nourish and support you to your goal of feeling your best.
Maybe you’re thinking “if I listened to my body I’d eat cake all day and every day”. But this is fear talking – fear that is rooted in distrust of your self.
And maybe you do eat cake all day and every day – for a day or two. But this isn’t a side effect of trusting yourself – it’s a remnant of your past controlling of food.
Go ahead and try it. Take your most off limit food. The one you’ve labeled a trigger food. The one you think there’s no way you could ever lose weight eating.
Then eat it exclusively for as long as you want. I’m willing to be that after a day or two, if you even make it that long, you’ll be sick of it and will never want it again.
And that’s when you realize that when you stop trying to control food, it loses its power over you. You actually decide you don’t want it instead of feeling like you can’t have it.
So level the playing field with food. Remove all the labels you’ve placed on it. Start rebuilding your relationship with it and watch the obsession end and transformation begin.