If you’ve struggled for a lifetime to lose weight – maybe you should stop trying to lose weight.
No, that doesn’t mean you’re giving up on your weight loss goals. It means you’re changing your focus.
How many more years or decades of weight cycling and not being at peace with our selves do we need to endure before we finally question whether we’re going about the process in the right way?
You don’t decide your ideal weight. It’s a natural side effect of being at peace with food, enjoying your exercise, accepting your body, and cultivating the right mindset around your lifestyle.
Many people could stand to improve these things, and the side effect very well might be weight loss if you don’t currently feel your physical best.
Can you artificially suppress your ideal weight or even go above it? Yes you can in the short term. Maybe you’ve experienced this yourself. Others seem to do it for quite a long time.
But doing so comes at the expense of your mental health – your relationships with food, exercise, body, and mind.
You can’t see these things but you can certainly feel them. You obsess over food and calories. You force yourself to do exercise you hate. You live for tomorrow’s weigh-in and you think about your body non-stop.
You’re never at peace with who you are. So you never live your full life experience.
You might think you don’t care and that you’re willing to sacrifice your mental health to have the body society has deemed attractive.
But you do care. You care because you’re already unhappy with your self. And you don’t want to keep feeling that way.
Changing your body doesn’t bring you peace. It doesn’t automatically create whole body (mental and physical) health. It doesn’t get rid of your food or body image issues.
The only way out of this lifetime struggle is to stop focusing on your weight. Stop making every choice you make contingent upon what it might do to your weight and start focusing on your health and well-being.
Then surrender to the outcome and accept yourself at your ideal weight.
That’s how you improve your mental and physical health, your relationship with food and exercise, and be at peace with who you are.