I started working out when I was 12 years old. And because of this I stood out amongst the rest of the middle schoolers.
It was great at the time, but I ended up tying my self-worth to my appearance. And that relationship with my body carried on into two decades of my adult years.
I was always worried about what other people thought about me. Always thought I didn’t look good enough. Always thought I had to look a certain way to be taken seriously.
I was never at peace with myself. I wanted to avoid the pain. And I always struggled with staying motivated as a result.
That is until I learned one very important lesson…
🔷Lose weight for you because you want to – not for others because you have to.
I asked my audience a hypothetical question – if you were the only person in this world would you still want to lose weight?
The question was meant to get you thinking of your motivations and shows you whether you’re taking action for yourself or if you’re trying to lose weight to appease others, such as friends, family, or societal standards.
It also shows you whether losing weight is something you really want to do, or if it’s something you feel like you have to do. Do you feel an internal desire to change, or do you feel external pressure to change?
And finally, it helps you determine whether your motivation is more driven by vanity metrics, or if you’re doing it for health, quality of life, and to feel your best.
✅ losing weight for you vs doing it for others
✅ wanting to lose weight vs needing/having to
✅ losing weight to feel your best vs do it to look good
👆 Those 3 scenarios above really define your motivation. The more you choose the options on the left the more at peace you’ll be with your journey and the more you’ll enjoy the outcome.
The more you choose the ones on the right the more you’ll struggle to stay motivated and the more you’ll make your happiness contingent upon what others think.
In the past I would’ve said I wouldn’t want to lose weight. I’d just eat all the food and not care what I look like because no one was there to judge me.
But over time I noticed how much better I felt when I was able to freely move my body. I noticed how many more experiences I was able to have. And how I started caring less about what others thought of me.
That’s what freedom from your limiting mindset feels like. You do things for yourself because you want to feel your best (aka self-care).
You feel held captive when you’re forced to do something for others based on their perception of what you look like.
Remember, it’s not your goals that keep you motivated to take action – it’s your reasons. So that’s what I want you to figure out right now by taking the following 2 actions…
Action Item #1: Answer the question: Why do you want to lose weight?
Action Item #2: Leave your answer from above in the comments section below. At the very least, read everyone else’s why. Many times it can help you uncover hidden motivations deep within you. (If you want to be anonymous just put “anonymous” in the name field)
PS: In a couple of days I’m going to share with you 5 of the most common mistakes I see with my new clients when trying to lose weight. You must avoid these traps if you want to succeed. See you then!